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You are Superwoman. I get it. I truly understand – you see I am too!

I’m almost embarrassed to admit this given I extol the virtues of rest, relaxation and ultimately balance. I too am a workaholic. Similar to a recovering alcoholic it’s something I have to work on keeping in check everyday. It was only when I started to have my health problems that I faced up to this to myself. In fact if I’m being truthful it was quite some months into my illness, when I was still battling on and not admitting I was as ill as I was that I finally understood this. This is also something I am still learning on a daily basis.

I hadn’t realised that I had such high standards for myself and that I had unrealistic expectations of what was achievable. I would then beat myself up on the odd occasion that I didn’t achieve the impossible. It was a massively revelation to me when I realised that I was trying to emulate the success of both my mum and dad. I was trying to be superwoman at work AND at home. I needed to be the perfect career woman AND the perfect Stepford Wife. I was trying to do TWO people’s jobs. This realisation hasn’t changed me overnight but it has made me realise that my health and relationships are more important to me than being perfect.

If you, like me are Superwoman, I applaud you. So many people sit on the sidelines of life and don’t go and achieve in life. It’s great that you’re putting yourself out there and being brilliant at work, home, family, clubs and so on, but when do you have time for YOU?

Here are 5 practical ways to find some time and space for you.

Make time don’t find time – so often I hear ‘I can’t find time for that’ as though time is some mystical thing which we can go on an expedition to find – If you want time you have to MAKE time. I know this sounds like a silly distinction, but it’s a really helpful shift in mindset. What could you give up to make time for you – could you stop watching TV or reading news, could you delete facebook, could you turn off your phone and not reply to emails for one evening? What one thing can you do?

Say No you are not missing out – I have a tendency to say yes to everything I’m asked to do whether it’s helping someone out or a social event. It’s not ok to say yes to things when it’s at the expense of you. Start to be more selective and say no more often. I’m not saying to become a hermit and refuse to help the rest of the world but sometimes it really is ok to say no.

Delegate more and not just at work – ask your partner, children, friend, housemate for help. Hire a cleaner or a virtual assistant. People who love you don’t want to see you struggle they just don’t always know what to do. The really hard part here is that if you ask them to do something you have to trust they will AND let them mess up without complaining. If you ask your partner to cook dinner and they forget to buy the ingredients don’t solve the problem for them.

Prioritise you – this doesn’t always come naturally, especially if you’re a mum, but without you there is no family. You are important too, so occasionally prioritise you. Let the house know that it’s your time even if it’s only for 5 minutes. Dr Sara Gottfried has a great idea for this and has a tiara she puts on for ‘tiara time’.

Let things slip – this is really scary I know but it is ok to lower your standards and let things slip occasionally. You’re probably the only person who will notice if under the sofa hasn’t been hoovered this week!

Let me know how you make time for yourself by commenting below.

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