I’ve spoken before about making more time for you and this article just takes it a little further.
Strange title right?
But, a see saw is a great analogy for our lives and what percentage of our focus we put on the internal and the external. Broadly speaking everything in your life is either focuses internally (e.g. physical, mental or spiritual) or externally (e.g. career, relationships including romantic, friends, family or material ‘things’).
Neither are good or bad
Each of us have different priorities at different times in life and it’s natural for the focus on each of the areas of our lives to ebb and flow.
Most of the time our see saw hovers one way or the other, but we naturally prevent it from crashing completely to the floor on one side.
They sometimes get out of balance
I talk more about how I let this get totally out of balance for me over on the About Sarah page.
For me I was so focused on what I ‘should’ do – build a career, save money, buy a house, have a fab social life etc. that I simply didn’t have enough left to focus on my internal needs.
What can you do?
What is key is that we have some degree of balance between the two and this is a constant act of tweaking and prioritising.
One way I now address this is when I know I am spending a lot of time focusing on the external I know I need to dial up some the internal side so the see saw doesn’t go crashing to the ground. For example if you’re working on a big project at work, you may need to pre-empt this and build in some extra relaxation time throughout and after.
This may mean some tough choices. For example you may have to say no to friends. It can be helpful to think about how you can pre-empt this.
Some ideas include:
- Letting people know in advance that for the next X weeks you’ve got a tough workload and won’t be able to do anything
- Dial up your support network and ask for help or delegate to colleagues, friends and family
- Set boundaries and fiercely guard them so that you protect your relaxation time.
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