Oh happiness, the great elusive happiness. What is it anyway?
In Matthieu Ricard’s book Happiness he describes happiness as a skill. Something you work on and learn. This made a lot more sense to me than it begging something you seek, something that happens to you.
I actually quite like the word peace rather than happiness. Learning to be at peace with the ups and downs, the lights and shades, of life.
Regardless of the definition.
Is there something missing from your life?
I talked more about the balancing your focus on the internal and the external a couple of weeks ago in this article.
(N.B As a slight aside – do note that balance is a verb. You can never achieve ‘balance’. It has the meaning “to bring to or hold in equilibrium”. It is not a state we achieve and forget about. It’s something we constantly tweak and work on)
When you think about your life as a whole are you putting so much focus on one area another is suffering.
I see happiness or peace (or whatever you want to call it) as a place where the focus we put on the external and the internal is more in balance.
Find Your Priorities
Try this little exercise:
- Write a list of what you think your top three priorities are in your life?
- Now have a think over the last week. Write down in a separate list where you spent most of your energy? (have a think about energy as the most time is often spent at work but that doesn’t necessarily mean that’s where your focus all is)
- Compare the two lists Do they match?
If not, why not?
Your Personal Happiness Equation
If you broadly split your life into mental, physical, spiritual, career, family and material.
Which areas would you give the thumbs up? Which less so? Is one area lacking a bit of attention?
Is there something missing from your happiness equation?
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